I absolutely CANNOT believe that Claire is already a 1-year-old. It feels like yesterday little Charlie was on the blog announcing my pregnancy. Time sure has a funny way of flying by! I have to admit, this year has been a bit of a learning curve for me. It’s been challenging figuring out how to balance a house and business together – especially while running ship with Andy. So, I thought in celebration of making it through our first year as a family of 4, I would share 5 valuable lessons I learned this year.
IT’S OKAY TO STOP WHEN YOU’RE RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF SOMETHING – This is something I wrestled with really really hard. I am the kind of person that when I am in the zone and completing a task, I am literally in beast mode. Whether it be laundry, writing a blog post, helping Charlie with homework, making dinner, I don’t like to pull away from it until I am completely done. This year with a new baby, I’ve had to pull away right in the middle of whatever I am doing. At first it was extremely uncomfortable and it still sort of is, but I’ve learned to wrestle with this and give myself permission to realize that I cannot control everything. Such a hard muscle to build! ;)
MEMORIES OVER MESS- I love keeping a tidy house but especially lately, I am being pulled in so many directions that I have been ditching the clean up to go make memories. I mean, it’s not like my house is a mess 24/7, especially because Andy has been so incredible with this, but there have definitely been some recent times where I’ve just had to pull away and not control the mess. Oh well!
DON’T OVER-COMMITT – I used to be the queen of over-committing! Coffee dates, play dates, volunteering, phone calls, collaborations- you name it! I was already getting better about this before Claire was born, but after she was born I felt in a constant state of racing against the clock (I know, I hate admitting that I still feel this way). Every commitment pulls me away from my family, so I realized I need to make sure everything is a win-win. I think what’s been the hardest for me is that I’ve even had to say no to win-wins this year. It makes me cringe and squirm a bit in my chair but I know in the long run I will be thankful.
HEALTH IS #1 – If you follow me on IG, you may have seen some videos of me traveling to Oakland to see a naturopathic doctor and at some of my doctor’s appointments. After years of running at full speed, I am exhausted. I hit a brick wall where I realized I could not do everything else alone anymore and recruited an amazing team @ BFFF. But I have to tell you, that whole saying about putting your oxygen mask on first before you help anyone else is so true. I am finally getting answers and getting things back on track but earlier this year I felt like I had the carpet pulled from underneath me. It made me realize that if I don’t take care of myself, I won’t be 100% for my family, for you guys, and for everyone else. So all in all, don’t neglect your health. Make time to work out, treat yourself, meditate, and sleep!
BE ORGANIZED – Okay, this is a big one. I know it’s generic, but it’s such a game changer. When I say be organized, we’re talking- lay clothes out before bed time, plan meals weekly, order household items online if you can’t make it to the store, set time aside to beef up your calendar for the week. For me, I notice that when things are organized, I feel more content and ready to take on the next day.
I’ve learned so many lessons this year and I’ve fallen on my face in the process. Don’t you hate that?! It’s like really uncomfortable growing pains. It’s been a challenge for sure but I’ve made it! As this year is coming to a close, I have to say how thankful I am that I’ve survived it, and I am so excited to transition into a new year with more joyful memories, making good choices, and living it up!